Sometimes it will be negative, others positive. Xxx If you slap your woman because nothing you could do would turn her on more in the moment, then you are making a great choice. By the end you can be swinging softer than you were in the middle, but causing twice as much agony. If you hit your woman because you’re upset, and are blowing off steam, that is abuse, pure and simple. If you don’t have complete trust between the two of you, you should not be pushing any limits in BDSM, in any way. She gets to choose to give up her control to you, she has the power and ability to stop a scene if it’s not what she wants (this is where safe words come into play), and every choice you make as a Dom is made to be the best possible positive
